Wednesday, 29 July 2015

Dating Advice

Heyyyy Everyone, 

In true Bridget Jones style I spend my Saturday nights with a bottle of wine, a tub of Ben & Jerry's, and a RomCom movie that will make me feel rubbish about my life. Oh the joys of the single life. 
I'm not asking for sympathy, in fact all isn't bad in my romantic life, because I have started dating! I took the plunge and put myself online, something I said I wouldn't do until I was in my 40's, but when my friend told me her success story of meeting her man online I thought I need to get myself on this. How else am I going to meet my man? I don't trust men on a night out because they are just after one thing, and lets be honest that fit bloke sat opposite me on the train isn't going to start up a conversation with me, in which we discover we are soul mates, because quite frankly that only happens in the movies! 
I can't say I'm very good at 'dating'. In fact I'm awful. I have two settings, I either don't stop talking (word vomit), or can't find any words (awkward silences). Most relationships I have been in have been friendships that have turned into relationships, so there hasn't been any formal 'dates' involved. I've learnt a few things since I have spiced my love life up a bit and one of the first things I realised was that we all think/worry about the same things, so I thought I would give you some advice for you if your dating (because I'm sure your worrying about the same things I worry about). 
1. When you first meet him what if you don't recognise him? Make sure before you meet him you have not just seen his dating profile pictures, but you have also added him on Facebook or Instagram so that you've studied all his pictures. Remember this is not Catfish, he is going to look like his pictures and you have looked at them enough to immediately know its him when he approaches you. I always get to the place we are meeting 5 minutes early so that he has to approach me.
2. What if there are awkward silences? Have a list of things to ask him so that you can avoid them silences as much as possible, but I don't think awkward silences are a bad thing. If they do occur you obviously aren't a match, and you will be able to say we just don't have a lot to talk about so this is not going to work.   

3. What if I just want to leave? Plan a day date and worn your date in advance that you have plans that evening. That way you have a time limit and if you really are having a bad date you can get away by saying you need to get ready for your evening. Or if your having the most amazing time you could 'get a text' *wink* and find out your evening plans have been cancelled and you now have the whole evening to spend with your new found love!

4. Who is going to pay? There is always that awkward moment when you come to pay and he offers but you don't know whether he means it and you try to pay and he gives you your money back and, oh it can go on! I suggest you go to a bar where you pay for drinks straight away. He will get the first drink, then when you see the glasses getting low, get your purse out ready and ask if he wants another, at this point if he says 'yeah I'll get it', get up from the table and say 'my round' whilst walking away so that he has no choice but to stay at the table and watch your things. Then your equal and there are no 'bill fights'.

5. What if I like him and he doesn't like me? A personal favourite of mine. Firstly, you obviously have some attraction to each other otherwise you wouldn't be on the date so don't assume that he doesn't like you at all. If he doesn't like you enough for a second date when you were planning the wedding, its because he notices something that you missed when you were blinded by his good looks, remember just because he's fit doesn't make him the perfect boyfriend! 

I hope that has helped, have you got any good advice for me??

Ciao EmmaJessica <3

1 comment:

  1. Hahaha, love these tips. Sounds like you're well prepared for your dates so best of luck on finding the one!

    Michelle x
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