Wednesday, 14 January 2015

Advice on Decision Making

Heyyyy Everyone,

A couple of months ago I wrote a blog called 'Act Your Age', where I basically discussed how I wasn't ready to enter the real world and came to the conclusion that I would put off 'real' life for a little while longer and reassess my situation when I'm 25. Little did I know.. I'm having to reassess my situation within 3 months. 

After my 'FAIL' trip to Canada, I have again been left in the sticky decision making process of what to do next. However, this time its 10 times harder. I'm a strong believer in everything happens for a reason and I'm still trying to figure out the reasoning for what has happened to me. You know at school, when the teacher says 'pay attention to this lesson because its the most important thing on your exam and your exam results will shape the rest of your life', but then you walk out the classroom and panic because you don't understand anything you've just learnt?! That's basically how I feel about my life at the moment. I have no idea what I've just learnt and I need to figure it out because the next few decisions I make are bigger than any decision I've made before! 

During my last few weeks of thinking I have learnt a lot about the process of making a decision, so heres some advice;

1. You should always take as long as you need to make decisions. If you can't decide don't just pick something because it's easiest, or your family say its the best, or your fed up of thinking about it. It has been 3 weeks since my life got tipped upside down and shaken about but I still have no qualms in telling people that, actually, I don't know what I'm going to do yet and I need some more time to make a decision. In the back of my head I'm shouting 'BACK OFF, WHEN I DECIDE I'LL LET YOU KNOW YOU!' but obviously it's better to be polite about the situation.  

2. Talk it through as much as you can. When your making a decision it is not advice you seek but more to just get your feelings off your chest. Talking to yourself in your head can make you go a little bit crazy, but saying it out loud to a freind or family member can help you understand if what your thinking makes sense. I spent a good few hours the other night opening up to a friend and once I got on a roll I found myself saying things I'd not even thought about previously. I intent to spend the next few days pouring my heart out to a few more people and I think that will send me on the way making a conclusion!

3. Everyone has there own opinion and it may be different to yours. Once you have made your decision stick by it, don't let anyone change your mind. Stand up for what you have chosen and be prepared to argue your case. I haven't even made my decision yet but I know that once I've decided I will see it through, no matter what anyone has to say. 

I hope this helps you out, have you had to make any big decisions in your life that have got you a bit confused? Do you have any more advice for me? 

Ciao EmmaJessica <3

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